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Met a fellow blacksmith at the bar. I’ve known his gf for years, but this was the first time I met him. Nice guy, VERY talented smith.

His gf mentioned to me that his hand-cranked blower was broken. I told her I had one he could have. We worked out a surprise

She told him I’d be willing to exchange some high alloy steel for some spring steel, he agreed, and when he came to pick up I gave him my old blower

You could tell, he was genuinely touched

It’s important to look after each other. Something sitting rusting in your garage could meaningfully change someone’s life.

Be good y’all 💘

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Morrissy, profanity, the smiths 

The Smiths - “What Difference Does it Make”

Damnit Moz, why do you have to make me feel bad about listening to the Smiths? Oh well, maybe Johnny Marr will get a penny in, like, a decade. 😕

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I need to make sure I don’t forget the tortillas in the morning or I’m not going to have anything for lunch.

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I’m right in the middle of this interview, and I have an epiphany.

“I don’t want to be doing this.”

I have hopes, dreams, and ideas, and none of them are this.

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Self care is not a waste of time. Self care makes your use of time more sustainable. ~ Jackie Viramontez

Good morning Fedi,

As you can see, I’m wearing tie today, and I would appreciate it if everyone acted accordingly.

Thank you. 🥸

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We need to make services and clients that don't rely on the browser, provide well documented apis and how-to.

We need to communicate with each other and build relationships. Service providers need to be open to communication, but we also need people to tell us when they can't access what we build.

Most of it should be on us of course, but we won't know, or grok unless people tell us.

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We need to think about our services and how people access them. The Internet is more than the Web.

I see hyped marketing like web3 to be exclusionary in nature. Before you even go into the monetisation factors. Because the Web has more and more stuff piled into it that the protocol was never meant to handle.

Folks on the edges get excluded through carelessness.

You want to make a network that's for humanity, it needs to include everyone.

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@theruran @alcinnz @jollyrogue as you say, too, putting trust in or demonstrating loyalty towards a corporation is silly. I also come to similar conclusions here: davelane.nz/mshostage and davelane.nz/megacorps. Corporations cannot deserve adoration or fealty, but they have succeeded in convincing the credulous of both.

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If someone I considered a friend behaved exceptionally poorly towards me and refused to apologize, and in fact doubled down on their behavior, I would cease being their friend.

If we had an exceptionally long and storied friendship I would maybe consider repairing the relationship if they later apologized and showed they had actually done the work to understand the harm they had created and the personal growth to change their behavior.

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It would be the same way if a close friend behaved this way towards someone I care about.

If there is a conflict between two people I care about and one of them has obviously committed harm, and refuses to acknowledge it or change…that’s not a relationship I can continue.

Forgiveness cannot come without change.

How could I continue to maintain a relationship with someone who had so greatly harmed a person I care about and remained unrepentant for it?

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But what if my friend didn’t harm just one person—what if they harmed a whole community?

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If a close friend wrote a book that perpetuated racist, homophobic, anti-Semitic, or misogynistic tropes and then publicly mocked anyone who pointed them out and asked them to change…how could I maintain this friendship and also claim to be opposed to these forms of oppression?

How could I tell people that I was anti-racist while I maintained a close relationship with someone who used their platform to spread racism?

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Of course, I couldn’t—such a position would be untenable.

Ultimately, I would have to separate myself from this friend—not just their bad actions, but entirely from them—until they changed.

But Audrey, shouldn’t you try to convince them to change? Shouldn’t you be there as a positive and trusted voice showing them how wrong they are?

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Once someone has reached the point of using their voice to publicly harm a group, and not just casually off-the-cuff, but in a pre-meditated and meticulous manner…they are so far down that hole that I am not going to be able to lift them out by the power of my friendship.

The time for me to be their friend and change their mind was *before* they used their voice to harm people, and clearly I would have failed in that endeavor if things got to this point.

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If anything maintaining the friendship becomes a silent assent to their behavior. It shows that their actions do not warrant any material response from me. It offers no incentive from me for them to change.

None of this is to say I don’t believe in forgiveness, but there can be no forgiveness without change and repairing the damage done.

Sometimes the damage is too great to be repaired, but we can’t even begin that conversation if the person won’t even acknowledge the harm they inflicted.

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So just think about all of this the next time some celebrity says their friend never hurt them, or their friend is only bad in one certain way. Sometimes one action can be bad enough to end a friendship—even when that action wasn’t harming you.

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